Members of my F-List (likely most of the same ones) will also appreciate that I just saw Secretary for the first time. Compelling: makes me want to read the original short story. I said to slipjig and rafaela that I "got" the mood more than I "got" the plot (I felt that I had missed things in the film's story). That mood -- beyond my increased appreciation of the gorgeousness of Maggie Gyllenhaal -- really made me think of one particular issue. The people in Lee's life (I thought) are seeing Lee's issues in a "how does this affect me and my worldview?" way; they're seeing it through their filters, not making any effort to see it through Lee's filters. That's really obvious in both her sex with her boyfriend and the montage of the different people at the desk. Spader's character, at least, even with his own clearly major issues, ultimately does try to see her in a way that understands her. Adam and Anna said they feel the film is similar to The Piano in that regard: how do two people manage to communicate this very specific, personal thing to each other? Back to that boyfriend sex: part of me wishes that the boyfriend had made a stronger effort to at least try. I'd like to think I'd be working harder to figure out my partner and her needs. Talking about the sex: good idea. Needed idea. It would show me that what Lee needs is not something I could likely give her, but at least it would provide the chance to see whether or not that's true.
Late-night thoughts. I'll see how these thoughts look in the morning. I hope they still make sense.